I read a story about a month ago on FB. I might butcher it but here goes:
A teacher goes up in front of her grade 5 class and writes out the following: 1. 7 + 2 = 11 2. 9 + 3 = 12 3. 4 + 3 = 7 4. 5 + 6 = 11 5. 9 + 2 = 11 6. 1 + 5 = 6 7. 4 + 6 = 10 8. 9 + 5 = 14 9. 10 + 2 = 12 10. 5 + 2 = 7 Timmy, the smartest kid in his grade, raises his hand eagerly and says "Mrs., you got the first one wrong." Mrs. responds, "Yes, but I got the 9 others right." 🙃
Sadly, it seems we are hardwired to see what's wrong with things AND not where things went right + the objective truth. 9 out of 10 seems pretty sweet, IMO. This is what I worry about about cancel culture. Yes, the value of what discretion a person made was probably not equally weighted 10% (1 out of 10). And, at the same time, humans are multifacited creatures. I don't think it's right to completely base your opinion of someone based on a single mistake, except for serious serious transgressions where the weight of the error is so high they are now down to losing most points on their "test". We should strive to be more objective and rational. Be more empathetic and kind to both sides of interactions.
As the great literary genuis of our time, Hannah Montana, says, "Everybody makes mistakes, Everyone has those days."
- Nobody's Perfect by Hannah Montana
- Read "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck" by Mark Manson. There's a section when he talks about how humans' default state seems to be in a constant state of looking for problems / what's wrong.
Written: August 12, 2020