I'm a big fan of Newton's Third Law of Motion:
For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction.
It is very useful physics concept AND, more importantly, I love using it as a metaphor / explanation for every day life.
I have noticed that people end up adapting, just like animals, to the circumstances around them in order to survive and, hopefully, thrive. You could say, "for every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction" ;)
I will write out some examples below. I'd say these are almost like psychoanalytic theories; I don't actually know if they are grounded in reality and have been statistically validated. But it's helped me explain the world more to myself.
- Less attractive girl or guy. They end up being not as popular as the hot and cool kids. Because they aren't as popular, they need to adapt so they lean into learning and become smarter. I have noticed that there are a lot of average attractive late 20s people who are incredibly smart. And I think it might be because of this. Back in the day, they couldn't get by with their looks or popularity so they needed to figure something else out (even if it was unconscious). Now, they seem much more ahead of their former counterparts, at least in terms of traditional success measures.
- I was speaking with a lady who was complaining about her nephew being a gamer 24/7. I probed further and apparently he has gotten bullied a lot growing up for whatever reason and hasn't really fit in with the other kids at school. Why might he be a gamer, you might ask? Well maybe — and this is just a theory — he isn't getting the social connection or validation that he (and we all) needs and so he's turning to games and the community around those to get that stimulation and attention.
Written: November 2, 2020 (while laying in bed)