Being imperfect on purpose.
I've been a perfectionist most of my life. Things had to be "perfect" based on my standards or I would lose my shit.
Recently, though, I've been trying to let go of the perfectionism. It certainly will come up again, especially when I'm stressed, but it's something I'm striving to be more mindful of.
To try to give the 🖕🏻to perfectionism, I've actually been trying to do things on imperfect on purpose and I think it's a neat exercise. In some cases this is VERY deliberate, in others it was just an accident.
Some that come to mind:
- Soul Man by Dave and Sam. There's a missed note from the trumpet in the song but they thought it sounded great even with the missed note so they didn't re-record it (I know bc I took MUSC171 at Queen's with Professor Pegley; arguably my favourite class at Queen's). There is also lots of improvisation throughout the song, such as "Play it Steve!"
- My ears aren't perfectly balanced. I used to get teased as a kid because I had big ears; someone even called me Dumbo 😢For a long time, I wanted to get them "fixed" — i.e. plastic surgery — so they were symmetrical. Eventually I realized that the weird ears is a part of who I am. My paternal grandfather has the same ears as me so it's sort of like carrying on part of the family tradition.
- Wendy's Spicy Chicken Combo. On one of my older's first shifts at Wendy's, I ordered my classic chicken strips combo (I usually get chicken nuggets or strips > burgers at fast food). Apparently she messed up entering the order and put in a Spicy Chicken combo instead. I was sooooooo pissed lol But it turned out that I actually liked the Spicy Chicken sandwich better than the chicken strips! 🤯So now that's the only thing I get at Wendy's! lol
- Kintsugi. Japanese art of putting broken pottery pieces back together with gold. "Built on the idea that in embracing flaws and imperfections, you can create an even stronger, more beautiful piece of art."
- Platform 9 3/4. 🧙🏾♂️
- Winnie Harlow
- Famous inventions: sticky notes, play doh, Penicillin, slinkies (where would the fun be if we didn't have all these???)
If everything thing was done perfectly. Where would the fun be in that? We would have nothing to improve upon or laugh about!
Embrace your imperfection.
"...the great news is because every human is different, everyone is the best at something— being themselves." — Naval
Written: October 23, 2020
- 9 out of 10. Why do we always focus on what's wrong but not on what's right?
- Apparently this is a concept in Japan called wabi-sabi
- Another interesting thing I've been doing is putting deliberate mistakes in to see if people even notice them. And, funny enough, most people don't! lol 🙈so the things that you were losing your shit about in your mind, they actually weren't that big of a deal.
- 15 inventions that were made by mistake
- Why You Should Make Mistakes On Purpose
- From what I've learned, perfectionism is very similar to OCD. It's a sign that you have higher neuroticism and are very orderly (conscientiousness). You could consider how they treat OCD and use those strategies to help with your perfectionism, that is if you do want to fix it. I like Dr. Jeffrey Schwartz's approach to treating OCD, especially the "Impartial Observer".
- Like most things in life, I think the answer is The Middle Path For me, I have been too orderly — i.e. perfection. At the same time, some people might live in too much chaos. It's a balance.