I have this roommate who is pretty mean to me.
I'm not sure if they realize it or not but they are constantly nagging me, chirping me, making me feel bad about myself.
This roommate says things like:
- Why would any person like that want to date or be with you?
- You never get the stuff done that you say you're going to do.
- Why aren't you doing more?
- Your face isn't symmetrical.
- You're an idiot. Why did you make that decision X years ago? (which I have no control over now)
- You suck at hockey. I can't believe that team even invites you back to play with them after you've let in so many bad goals you should have saved.
- You wasted another week.
Sounds almost like a toxic relationship, right? I should probably move out or go to couples counseling.
Problem is, this roommate can't move out. That being because my roommate is myself and my automatic thoughts. 😔
It's so strange that we do this to ourselves. At times, it can literally seem like domestic [verbal] abuse.
Things to do about it:
- Radical acceptance of the thoughts.
- Thoughts are just thoughts. There's really no weight to them unless I add meaning or importance to them.
- Impartial Observer.
Written: Friday, November 13, 2020